One word… Expectations.
Okay maybe I have a few more words. …but expectations are the biggest reason we feel disappointed in ourselves, our businesses, our bodies and how much is in our bank accounts.
Where do these expectations come from? Well mostly they are an external construct that we build for ourselves based on a number of things.
Our childhood, our education, the expectations placed upon us by society.
Admittedly, it’s a whole lot to deal with!
We can easily become overwhelmed.
Here’s the thing, expectations suck, they hold us back and keep us from fulfilling our dreams!
Elevate Yourself From Disappointment to Self-Confidence Now!
You know your strengths, focus on growing what you’re good at and outsource the rest. It’s not realistic to think we can be great at everything and when we take on too many different tasks it becomes hard to really excel. This hurts our self esteem, we want to be entrepreneur superheroes and we can be, but the key is to outsource our weaker areas.
It’s easy to think that we must to do everything! We can’t miss a beat.
But here’s the truth of it. If you’re an amazing interior designer, that doesn’t mean you’re an equally gifted web designer or chef.
You can grow your confidence when you set your focus to do what you love to do and what you’re good at doing. Can it be that simple?
What if I told you confidence is an attitude? It’s the difference between slumping at your desk and sitting tall and proud. Looking in the mirror and reaffirming your awesomeness or looking in the mirror and only seeing that you’re not good enough. Listening to the critics and taking their remarks to heart or using it as fuel for yourself to get better.
I have great news! YOU are good enough! We all have the potential to share our great unique gifts with the world.
By stepping up to the plate with the right attitude, you can either make it or break it. There are always going to be people who disagree, who criticize you. In the end its your choice to let the haters get you down or choose to surround yourself with the people who support and build you up. And you’ll do the same for them.
Live within your core values and principles. Be true to your own heart. I say do no harm, as I vowed in my Socratic Oath.
Care for others, but only as much as not to harm yourself. These are good principles to live by… sort of like your grandmother would have told you so.
Daily lifestyle practices such as good posture, positive self talk, eye contact and accepting praise and compliments from others does a lot to boost your self confidence. Learning how to receive praise is crucial to knowing our own self worth.
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It’s easy to brush off other peoples’ compliments, but taking a moment to let kind words soak in to your soul helps grow your confidence. On the other hand genuinely complimenting others makes you and the other person feel really good too. Focusing on the positive qualities in those around us is a healthy life practice and so much healthier than constantly reflecting the negative. When you can separate from the mentality that nothing is ever good enough to everything is good, your contentment and confidence can begin to skyrocket.
Taking the time each day to focus on our small accomplishments builds inner strength with time. Write down three things every day that make your proud of yourself. If there are areas in which you’d like to improve, create an action based task list of ways you can get there. For example, if we want to lose 10 pounds in the next few months we could strive to exercise more and cut our sugar from our diet. Every day that we succeed at sticking to our plan we can feel confident that with time, we will reach our destination.
We’ve all heard the quote when one door closes another opens. Has this ever rang true in your life?
I know for myself there have been times when it felt like my world was caving in on itself. I wanted to run and hide but forced myself to step up to the plate and keep going towards something greater. Sometimes our greatest disappointments can turn into amazing opportunities.
“Ones best success comes after their greatest disappointments.”
Henry Ward Beecher quotes (Liberal US Congregational minister, 1813–1887)
Where did we get the idea that we have to be perfect? Accepting our imperfections is humbling and it opens doors that before were closed. When we realize that no human is perfect, no matter how they present themselves to the world we all have faults. In business and in life we must accept ourselves and strive to gain and grow a little more everyday. The path to success is filled with hardships and that is what makes the success so sweet.
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All great leaders and big thinkers had their fair share of whopping disappointments. But did it stop them? It sure didn’t!
Albert Einstein failed his college entrance exam, Michael Jordan didn’t make the cut for his high school basketball team!
Hone in on what you can give to the world. Forget about what you want, because when we give our gifts, when we provide our clients or customers with something they desperately need it always come back to us. A major bonus is that your people will adore you, they’ll be so grateful you tapped in to their biggest desires and provided without expectation.
Focusing on how we can help others boosts our self esteem dramatically. It’s human nature to want to give. Studies show random acts of kindness help to alleviate depression and release the happy hormone oxytocin.
Next time you’re feeling down in the dumps and inferior, remember these tips and remember that you are seriously awesome. Come on, even Einstein failed sometimes!
How do you boost your confidence? Let us know in the comments below.
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